MOTHER'S DAY TIPS

Managing all facets of a special needs child daily living – personal, school, therapy and medical – while trying to balance work and family responsibilities is no easy feat for even the most dedicated parent.

With all the pressures and responsibilities, special needs mothers usually put themselves on the back burner more often than not, but it’s important for women to take care of themselves both physically and emotionally.

Mothers can apply these eight, simple tips to have a wonderful Mother’s Day and throughout the year.

Make yourself a priority.  This may be one of the hardest things

you’ll ever have to do, because you feel like your child should be the

priority. Do it not for yourself, but for your child. Putting time toward

your well-being now is like making an “investment” in your child’s future.

Get healthy and fit.  Try to get at least six hours of sleep a night, eat properly and get some exercise in; Spring is a perfect time to begin an exercise program. A 30-minute walk, three times a week, is not only excellent for your heart, but regular fresh air and exercise can also benefit your mental health. Bring along a friend for motivation and accountability. You may also want to explore meditation or other relaxation techniques.

Remember who you are.  It’s very easy to allow an all-encompassing  challenge like raising a child with a disability to define you. Like

any parent, much of your life is going to be centered on your children, but that doesn’t mean you should abandon the hobbies, events, and activities you enjoy doing, even if it’s once a month. Ask a friend or family member to watch your child for a few hours, so you can do something you enjoy. Give yourself permission to have a good time and not feel guilty about it.

Have some fun.  Get together with your friends and family. Laugh, be playful and enjoy yourself. Go shopping or bowling. Visit a museum or attend a concert. Take advantage of the summer weather and go to the beach or have a picnic. It will do wonders for your emotional outlook to unload the weight of your responsibilities for a short time.

Learn a new hobby or skill.  Learning and growing as an individual can make you feel better about yourself. It's also a great way to build self-confidence. Many schools and universities offer on-line courses and degrees which will allow you to advance at your own pace and schedule. Consider attending a fun workshop at a neighborhood arts and crafts store or taking a computer or language course at your local public library.

Keep in mind you're human.  No one's perfect. You're allowed to make mistakes, get angry, frustrated or even be a little sad at times. So cut yourself some slack every once in a while.

Appreciate yourself.  Do something nice for yourself, each week, no matter how small. It could be as simple as setting aside 30 minutes to watch your favorite TV show or calling a good friend to catch up. Buy something you've been wanting. Take yourself out to eat.

Celebrate you!  Know you’re amazing. If anything, you’re an even stronger and better person for having stepped up to the challenges of life with a special needs child.